There are many things that I would change in the years since I became a Mom. Here are a few of the biggest “mistakes” I made. Â
I hope you will take them to heart and not make the same mistakes!
Learn to trust your mom instincts and surround yourself with others in the know.
Throw away the “What to Expect” books – I would have quit worrying about trying to be normal and just enjoy being a Mom. Â Jacob came home at six months old. Â Because the book “What to Expect the First Year” said children should be weaned from the bottle at 12 months, that’s what I did. Â After only six months of being bottle fed by his forever Mom and Dad, I decided he would be much better off drinking from a cup. Â Makes me tear up just thinking about it! Â It wouldn’t have mattered one whit how long he drank from a bottle, except that we would have had that much more one on one time together. Â
Focus most on attachment – I would have focused more on building attachment than on building fine or gross motor skills. Â For a majority of kids those skills will come naturally,Â even if a bit late, attachment takes more focused, continual work.
Find a Pediatrician who understands your needs of your family – I should have changed pediatricians a long time ago. Â I kept justifying not changing because thankfully we never had to go much, it was just a necessary evil for the most part. Â It’s worth it to find a pediatrician who supports adoption, big families, adjusted immunization schedules and even homeschooling. Â
Live in a diverse community – Truthfully I poo-pooed this idea for a long time. Â As my kids were getting older though, I noticed this becoming more of a necessity. Â With our recent move from Michigan to Florida, we are in a larger, much more diverse community. Â What a tremendous difference it is to go about a our day at the grocery store, library, church, and sports and see a wide variety of people. Â
Start therapy sooner – Attachment Therapy has been such a blessing for our family. Â I wish we would have started sooner. Â I know families are still unsure about asking for help and thinking “it’s not that bad”. Â Don’t wait until it gets “bad”. Â Don’t let a perceived stigma stop you from getting the help you need for your family to go beyond just surviving to thriving.
Never stop learning – Always be willing to grow and change, be humble. Â Parenting is a constantly evolving process. Â Adoption parenting can be a game changer. Â I know it’s hard but often changing the Â way we’ve always done things is what needs to be done.
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