I am excited to be sharing the story of my sister and brother-in-law. Â They recently brought home their son from Armenia! Â She blogs at Work in Progress.
First, please give a brief overview of your family: Â how many children, how old they are etc.
Jim and I have been married for 13 years and have 3 biological children and 1 blessing through adoption. Â Madeline (11), Marney (9), Owen (6), and Ben (2), already, we forget which one was adopted.
1. What led you to adoption?
Adoption was never on our radar screen as a young married couple. Â We easily conceived 3 children with no fertility issues. Â We probably never would have thought much about adoption if it had not been for my sister and brother-in-law. Â They brought home our first nephew home from Russia 9 years ago, and since then have taught us much about the beauty and challenges of adoption. Â As their family grew, we would often look at ourÂ nieces and nephews, and wonder what their lives would be like had they never joined our family. Â It was painful to consider that they may never have had a family to call their own. Â
2. What was most helpful in the beginning of your journey?
Having a sister and brother-in-law who are so knowledgeable about adoption, and such a source of encouragement was priceless.
3. Â What were/are your favorite adoption resources?
Dr. Ray Guarendi’s book “Adoption, Choosing it, Living it, and Loving it” Â It is a funny and common sense look at adoption, an easy informative read.
4. Â How did you fund your adoption?
Whatever it took, short of begging. Â However, we are not proud people, and would have resorted to begging if need be!
We traded in a car for something less expensive, and Jim took a second job delivering pizza’s for a little while. Â Also, we held a garage sale. Â Generous friends and neighbors donated items to help us raise money. Â I worked part time while going to school, and homeschooling our children. Â We trimmed our budget where ever we could. Â We also received some generous donations from family and strangers alike. Â It was a crazy time, but we basically decided we needed to do whatever we had to, to bring our little guy home.
5. Â Why did you choose International/Domestic/Foster?
We originally started out thinking we would adopt domestically, but God kept closing that door. Â It was not until we found Ben on a waiting child list that things began to happen, so we felt that this was the direction we were supposed to go.
6. Â Anything you would say to encourage those still on the fence?
Go for it!
7. Â Any adjustments/challenges with your child/children
We are currently inÂ ArmeniaÂ completing our adoption, so we have only had Ben for about 2 weeks. Â So far the adjustment has been very smooth. Â He is a happy, easy going little guy. Â He has a few issues we are working on, but overall we could not be more thrilled with how quickly we have bonded.
8. Â What was your biggest fear?
My secret biggest fear was that I would never be able to love Ben like I love the children I gave birth to. Â That fear was put to rest the moment I held Ben in my arms for the first time. Â There was an instant, unexplainable connection. Â
9. Â What has been your greatest blessing?
So far, our greatest blessing has been finally getting our hands on this boy! Â He is such a joy. Â We cannot wait to get him home, and introduce him to the rest of our family.
Thanks for sharing your story!