I try not to look back with regret on life. Â Life is far too short to be worried about what I should have done. Â I prefer to focus on what I can do in the here and now, how I can grow from my mistakes, and make better decisions.
There aren’t a ton of things that I regret about homeschooling thus far, like parenting there is no instruction manual! Â It’s just a bit of trial and error, we quickly learn what works and what doesn’t work for our children.
However, if I knew then what I know now, there certainly are some things I would change:
Homeschooling Do Overs
One of my biggest regrets is buying a boxed curriculum for my kindergartener! No 5 year old needs to be sitting at a desk filling out workbook pages – especially a boy. Â I think I was more anxious to do “real” work than anything. Â Our mornings would have been much better suited to being outside, taking little field trips and reading good books. Â Of course we did all of those things, we just didn’t really need to add in the workbooks.
My other big regret is trying to replicate myÂ public school days at home. Â Not that my public school days were bad at all, but homeschool and traditional school are vastly different – as they should be! I never plan on serving my kids lunch while wearing a hair net 😉
Having a rigid schedule. Â Yep. Â At one time I tried having a schedule with everyone changing up every 30 minutes. Â Yikes. Â All that did was make me a slave to the clock and then scurry to check the schedule to see where everyone was supposed to be. Â This is a home not a military base. Although some days I do feel like a military sergeant barking orders to everyone, but that’s not how I prefer to spend the majority of our day. Having a routine works so much better for us.
Math. Â Ugh, I dislike it so. Â Even though I’m still holding out hope, there is no magic fairy that is going to impart math knowledge to my children while they sleep. Â So, that means we just need to keep plugging along with our imperfect system and making it a priority each day. I’m working on that.
I often feel like I’m walking a fine line between wanting my kids to know a bunch of “stuff” versus wanting them to experience a bunch of stuff. Â My goal is always error toward the side of experiencing life. Â I want my kids to know learning doesn’t end when the books are closed and it’s never too late to make changes or pursue what matters most.
What would you change in your homeschool past?
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